chores

Feb. 22nd, 2013 10:35 am
millysdaughter: (rainbow)
Once upon a time, when I was young and dinosaurs roamed the earth, Saturday was set aside for chores. Washing and scrubbing and cleaning, oh, my!
Drummed deeply into my brain was the rule "you cannot go anywhere until all your chores are done and everything is clean."
(My brother spent Saturday morning just laying on the couch watching cartoons, but he was the boy and boys did not clean/wash/scrub, as that was "woman's work.")
However...this also drummed something else into my head that I cannot break:
as chores - cleaning and laundry and scrubbing and straightening - all must be done BEFORE one leaves the house, I cannot come home and "get busy" with housekeeping matters. (I also cannot delegate, but that is a different rant)
I go in late every day but Thursday, so I do cleaning and laundry and straightening oh my four mornings a week, but Thursday is off the table. That is the day I get off early, so I can go run errands -- I try to save them all up for my Thursday jaunts. Most of the time it does work, but not always.
I was getting stuff done on Saturday mornings for a while there as well, but our schedule somehow morphed into going to the commissary on Saturday morning instead of Saturday afternoon, taking any possible Saturday cleaning off the table.
So in my traditional manner of borrowing trouble before it arrives by itself, I am worrying about next year. We are dissolving at the end of this school year, and our school will no longer exist. There are current openings aplenty in the system, and theoretically we get "first dibs" on the spots for next year, but I have yet to see any of the "other jobs" out there that would permit me to write my own schedule.
Flailing around, looking for answers -- but it is a real challenge to search for answers when I am unable to even formulate the question, much less articulate the question.
What do I want/need?
Do I need to learn to come home from work and embrace the whole cleaning lady thing?
(possible need, not a want)
Do I need to learn to delegate?
(probably, but I have serious doubts as to my ability to do this one. I have never mastered (nor even attempted) the ability to ask the cute guy "can you do this chore?" and I was not even particularly good at telling my kidlets to "go do this chore right now"
The Jesuits were right, you know
All the crap drummed into our head as a kid is there forever)
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I am also struggling with one of my goals/tasks/items on my KateGoalSheet. To be honest, I am scoring a total fail with this one.
Total fail.
It sounds "simple enough" to anybody else -- neither an onerously hard task, nor a particularly time-consuming one...but I cannot seem to do it. It contains enough emotional minefields to blow up the country of your choice, doncha know?
It makes me cry.
And cuss.
And feel sorry for myself.
Kitchen floor: on five days per week, for three consecutive months, I will sweep the kitchen floor. On one day each week, I will also mop the kitchen floor.
Sounds so innocent, does it not?
Riiiiiiiiiiiight.

progress

Feb. 5th, 2013 10:51 am
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Winter is dragging on and on and on...
Making progress on my short-term list, at any rate.
Still struggling with the whole "long term" thing.
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Short term objectives:
christmas thank yous written
emily money report due feb 1
oil change spectra
msu scholarship form by feb 1
2nd Story minutes
Got the thank you notes mailed. Got the oil changed. Have been working on the annual report and the money report in chunks, and will finish it up tonight. Checked on the scholarship form -- must grab the smallbear to complete it -- seems it must be filled out and submitted on-line now, which is both blessing and curse. It will take less than ten minutes, once both of us are in the same place at the same time.
That "same place" being both mental and physical has so far kept it from happening this week...
I will get the minutes typed up after I finish the annual report. I need to deliver it tomorrow - technically it is due on Friday, but my work schedule is set to run my errands on Thursday afternoon. Physically entering the courthouse is a royal PIA anyway, and trying to "rush in" when I have a work-set-clock-deadline would be an exercise in frustration I do not need.
So my short-term objectives seem to be on track and working well.
The other stuff -- not so much.
Medium term stuff:
new will
mammogram
girly visit
Have not yet done anything on any of these. Need to crack the whip!
Long term stuff is a very mixed bag indeed.
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Kitchen floor: on five days per week, for three consecutive months, I will sweep the kitchen floor. On one day each week, I will also mop the kitchen floor.
Pretty much a total fail. This is one of those *need to* items, as opposed to the *want to* items, so I cannot cut it from my list. I do, however, think that calling for "five days per week" is totally unrealistic. Maybe if I cut it to three it could be within reach?
Family: twice in every calendar month, I will mail a letter or card to the parental units
Done. Yay me!
Once each month, I will cook something new or different
so-so. Tried a new cut of meat, so it can be considered a win -- but did not actually do anything exotic with the new cut. However, it was the first time we ever grilled pork steak.
Social: once a month, make plans to go to dinner or play cards or games with another couple or family unit
Took bestpalmom out Saturday night for her birthday. Bestpal came along, the smallbear and the cute guy did not. So it was a party of three - and we all had fun.
Measurable leisure objectives: I will carve out one hour per week to spend on creative tasks and projects
I will call this a success, even though it was actually the smallbear's sorority pin project that I sewed. I made the pins for the new pledges -- handsewn ribbons and pearls onto pinback clasps.
paperwork – financial and otherwise – I will work on my stack-o-paper at least three times per week
Total win.
twice a month, I will write 500 words on my book
Total fail
once a month, I will take a car in for routine maintenance
Win! Got the spectra oil changed.
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...were limited at best. I did get to close the books on one thing from my short term list - I got the thank you notes in the mail. Added my board meeting minutes to the short term list, so it still has four things listed on it involving a "Pressing deadline."
Got seven other "checkmarks" scattered on my chart, giving me "partial success" in two columns and "full weekly success" in one.
As there are eight columns, checkmarks in three of the eight is not impressive, but it **is** progress.
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Started the new round of square dance lessons last night. Gagged at doc going on and on with his nomination to sainthood for perfectjerry, but otherwise it all went well. No, perfectsaintjerry was NOT there - he rarely is. For some reason, however, doc totally worships him and slobbers at his feet when he does show up.
And goes on and on with slobbering praise for him if he doesn't show up.
Whatever.
We had two new couples and three brand new women, plus one gal that did take the lessons last spring. Hoping to get a few more next week - there was one brand new guy that was supposed to be there, but he had something come up - his sister-in-law is part of the group already - and there is one gal from church that had planned to come - she also took the class last spring. She was not in church Sunday either, so she might have been sick.
Come. Bring your friends.
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Goldy had issues last night, so the cute guy had to go deal with it. He will put in a new heater fan this weekend, I guess. Until then, I guess we will punt. I will drive Goldy today, as I only have to go to the school five blocks away. If it was warm, it is walking distance.
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I grabbed onto Kate's Goal Setting 2013 group.
It is a five step process to put the plan together.
Rumor has it that I might have done it wrong, but I had to put it together to make it work for me.
So...
Being in need of a kick start, I am signing on to Kate's idea here.

Health - Pretty tolerable. Would like to lose 35 pounds, but not my top priority right now.

Education - Do I want to get my MLA? Being landlocked, can I get my MLA?
Do I want to go back to school for something different?
What do I want to be when I grow up?

Employment - School ends in May. Forever. So since this school ends, and I know I want to stay in the system, where do I want to go and what do I want to do when I get there? I do know I want/need daily co-workers in my next gig. Do I want to shop schools or principals?

Daily Living - Is the maintenance on my car up to date? oil changes are on my schedule for stuff-that-Must-be-done this month

As “housekeeping” is or needs to be my top goal / biggest challenge / reason to do this in the first place, I might need to split this goal into chunks
Is my house clean, safe and tidy? HAHAHA
Cooking: I serve a nutritious meal every day at more-or-less 6:00 PM. Meals catered to two highly picky “won’t try that” eaters, I might add.
My cooking goal is to add one new food or recipe each week, because I am bored and frustrated with only cooking for six-year-old taste buds after doing it every single stinking day for forty years.
Eating out with others once a week is also a goal I would really like to add here, but I think it is going under “social”
Laundry: I keep a pretty good control on the laundry. Not a needed item on this list.
Kitchen: I think the kitchen floor will be my first official listed objective on my work plan.

Finances - Do I have a will? need a new one. STAT

Social - How often do I communicate with my family members? Are these communications positive?
How many friends do I have? How often do I interact with them?
Do I regularly dine out/see movies with others? This one -- going out to dinner with friends -- I think this really needs to make the list of something to make a point to do this year. That is the only way we will ever see D&L, and we both do enjoy their company.
Am I active in clubs or charitable organizations? Do I volunteer? Am I more comfortable in person, on the phone, on the internet? Read my email? Invite friends into my home?

Leisure - Do I have a hobby? Play a sport? How often do I engage in it? When was the last time I went on vacation? To the park? Am I happy with the amount of time I spend with my hobbies or vacation? What projects have I completed this year? What recognition have I received for these? What is my skill level? Do I enjoy doing this?

Inspiration - What is my basic belief system? Do I practice it? Am I satisfied with this? How about joyful? What makes me laugh? Do I do it? How often?
Is this the right church for us? Is there a different church where the cute guy and the smallbear would be happier/more engaged?

Points to ponder, indeed.

Measurable objectives:
1 - Kitchen floor: on five days per week, for three consecutive months, I will sweep the kitchen floor. On one day each week, I will also mop the kitchen floor.
2 - Family: twice in every calendar month, I will mail a letter or card to the parental units
3 - Once each month, I will cook something new or different
4 - Social: once a month, make plans to go to dinner or play cards or games with another couple or family unit
Leisure: sewing and scrapbooking. I want/need to make a bootie jacket for Mitzi – Vicki’s dog. Soon, as she is suffering with winterness
My scrapbook is way behind, but I do NOT want to give up on it. I have visions of several things I really want to do with it. I also want to make an ABC scrapbook book for reading with the kidlets
I want to paint a plywood Eeyore turkey, possibly with holes to put lights through around each wing – or maybe Tigger would be a better choice
5 - Measurable leisure objectives: I will carve out one hour per week to spend on creative tasks and projects
Paperwork. The bane of my dining room table (and I use that term loosely)
6 – paperwork – financial and otherwise – I will work on my stack-o-paper at least three times per week
Health – I need to schedule a mammogram and a girly visit – not sure of my deadlines for these – will need to check when I actually need to go – there is a short window for scheduling – they do not make these appointments long-range because staffing levels change
Car: need to get spectra, Goldie and baby in for oil changes. STAT.
I had hoped to do this during the school break, but it was not possible to do it then
Bimbo has work to be done this spring
7 – measurable – once a month, I will take a car in for routine (or not-so-routine, as in Bimbo’s case) maintenance. If Manda is free to come with me and bring Goldie as I bring in another car, that can provide me with a “free month” further down the line
I need to finish my book. Due to assorted issues better not to revisit, I lost over six months of work on it, and gave up working on it at that point. I do need to get it out and blow the dust off the covers and get back to work. Has it really been seven years since all that stuff happened?
8 – measurable objective – twice each month, I will write 500 words on my book
9 - Immediate – I will get my Christmas thank you notes written and mailed before January 18th
10 – Almost immediate – I will start working on gathering the info to get our wills updated. This appointment will be scheduled in February with the legal office – at least, I will have all of the info together before the end of February so we CAN schedule the appointment

Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday
8-Jan 9-Jan 10-Jan 11-Jan 12-Jan 13-Jan 14-Jan 15-Jan 16-Jan 17-Jan
short term
christmas thank yous written
emily money report due feb 1
oil change spectra
msu scholarship form by feb 1

medium term stuff
new will
mammogram
girly visit

long term
Kitchen floor: on five days per week, for three consecutive months, I will sweep the kitchen floor. On one day each week, I will also mop the kitchen floor.
Family: twice in every calendar month, I will mail a letter or card to the parental units
Once each month, I will cook something new or different
Social: once a month, make plans to go to dinner or play cards or games with another couple or family unit
Measurable leisure objectives: I will carve out one hour per week to spend on creative tasks and projects
paperwork – financial and otherwise – I will work on my stack-o-paper at least three times per week
twice a month, I will write 500 words on my book
once a month, I will take a car in for routine maintainence


(the final section, which is a copy/paste from my xcel spreadsheet did not copy/paste pretty at all, but for that you can blame LJ. the two previous sections, which are copy/pasted from word, seem to work fine)

here I am

Dec. 26th, 2012 10:20 am
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http://kathrynrose.livejournal.com/783363.html?view=comments

Being in need of a kick start, I am signing on to Kate's idea here.

Health - Pretty tolerable. Would like to lose 35 pounds, but not my top priority right now.

Education - Do I want to get my MLA? Being landlocked, can I get my MLA?

Employment - School ends in May. Forever. So since this school ends, and I know I want to stay in the system, where do I want to go and what do I want to do when I get there? I do know I want/need daily co-workers in my next gig. Do I want to shop schools or principals?

Daily Living - Is the maintenance on my car up to date? oil changes are on my schedule for stuff-that-Must-be-done this month
Is my house clean, safe and tidy? HAHAHA

Finances - Do I have a will? need a new one. STAT

Social - How often do I communicate with my family members? Are these communications positive?
How many friends do I have? How often do I interact with them?
Do I regularly dine out/see movies with others?
This one -- going out to dinner with friends -- I think this really needs to make the list of something to make a point to do this year. That is the only way we will ever see D&L, and we both do enjoy their company.
Am I active in clubs or charitable organizations? Do I volunteer? Am I more comfortable in person, on the phone, on the internet? Read my email? Invite friends into my home?

Leisure - Do I have a hobby? Play a sport? How often do I engage in it? When was the last time I went on vacation? To the park? Am I happy with the amount of time I spend with my hobbies or vacation? What projects have I completed this year? What recognition have I received for these? What is my skill level? Do I enjoy doing this?

Inspiration - What is my basic belief system? Do I practice it? Am I satisfied with this? How about joyful? What makes me laugh? Do I do it? How often?

Is this the right church for us? Is there a different church where the cute guy and the smallbear would be happier/more engaged?

Points to ponder, indeed.

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